Memiliki perasaan takut gagal mungkin sesuatu yang wajar. Namun jika terus terkungkung oleh perasaan itu hingga tak pernah bisa melakukan apa-apa, perlu diwaspadai.
Orang seperti ini hanya mau bermain di area safe. Namun sebenarnya bermain di area safe pun memiliki risiko besar. Setidaknya ia tak akan beranjak dari kondisinya saat ini.
Sebenarnya, ketakutan itu hanya karena orang terlalu underestimate terhadap kemampuannya.Nah, strategi berikut akan membantu mengatasi ketakutan gagal dan menumbuhkan keberanian.
1. Pertimbangkan ongkos yang harus dipikul jika kita melewatkan peluang yang berada di hadapan.
Misalnya, kita tak akan bisa mengatasi masalah keuangan yang sedang kita hadapi padahal masalah ini telah mengganggu begitu lama. Atau jika tak diambil, kita tak akan pernah dipromosikan jadi manajer, direktur atau jabatan penting lainnya.
2. Lakukan penelitian untuk menemukan sisi baik dan buruknya dari suatu kesempatan.
Ketidaktahuan adalah sumber terbesar dari ketakutan. Ketika kita tidak tahu apa yang sedang kita hadapi, konsekuensi yang kita hadapi akan selalu tampak lebih besar dari kondisi sebenarnya. Karena itu tumbuhkan keberanian atau minat untuk mencari tahu apa yang sedang kita hadapi. Lakukan riset. Dengan cara ini kita akan menemukan sisi baik dan buruknya dari kesempatan yang tengah dihadapi sehingga kita bisa tahu apa saja risikonya.
3. Tampilkan skenario terburuk.
Jika kita mengejar suatu impian dan tenyata gagal meraihnya, seberapa lama mental kita akan pulih untuk kembali hidup normal atau berani mengejar kesempatan lain? Umumnya kemampuan kita pulih jauh lebih cepat dari perkiraan kita.
Misalnya kita adalah karyawan suatu perusahaan, namun merasa tidak betah berada di sana karena berbagai alasan. Namun untuk berhenti dan mencari pekerjaan baru takut tidak akan mendapatkannya atau kalaupun mendapatkannya pasti akan diraih setelah sekian lama mencarinya. Padahal seringkali jika mencobanya, tak akan begitu lama atau begitu sulit pekerjaan baru akan didapat.
4. Memahami manfaat kegagalan.
Ada peribahasa, hidup adalah serangkaian percobaan, makin sering kita mencobanya makin baik kehidupan bisa kita raih. Setiap kegagalan adalah percobaan untukmelakukan sesuatu, semacam eksperimen, serta juga merupakan kesempatan untuk tumbuh dan berkembang.Bahkan jika kegagalan itu berakibat pada kerugian finansial, manfaatnya dapat dikonversi sebagai bahan pelajaran yang jauh lebih mahal dari kerugian keuangan yang kita dapat.
5. Membuat rencana alternatif.
Cara lain untuk mengatasi ketakutan akan kegagalan adalah dengan mengurangi sisi negatifnya. Atasi risikonya dengan membuat rencana alternatif. Jika pilihan pertama gagal, kita dapat mempertahankan status quo dengan rencana cadangan yang solid. Berani gagal bukan berarti kita harus mengambil risiko kehilangan semuanya. Jika kita mengelola risiko dengan cerdas, kita dapat mengambil manfaat dari peluang yang memiliki risiko tinggi sambil kita menebar jaring penyelamat untuk berjaga-jaga agar kita tak jatuh terpuruk.
6. Take action.
Cara terbaik untuk mengurangi rasa takut dan membangun kepercayaan diri adalah denganmengambil tindakan (take action). Begitu kita melakukannya, kita akan mulai mengumpulkan pengalaman dan pengetahuan. Semuanya sulit pada saat melakukannya pertama kalinya. Ini seperti melompat dari tebing ke dalam danau. Setelah kita melakukannya sekali, kita akan melihat bahwa air tersebut aman dan setiap kali kita mencobanya lagi segalanya akan berjalan lebih mudah. Karena itu take action. Mulailah dengan langkah kecil sambil membangun kepercayaan diri sampai takut gagal bisa kita atasi sebaik-baiknya.
7. Membakar perahu.
Ini pepatah Yunani kuno. Ketika tentara Yunani melintasi laut untuk berperang, hal pertama yang mereka lakukan setelah mendarat adalah membakar perahu mereka sendiri. Dengan cara ini tak ada jalan untuk pulang. Satu-satunya jalan adalah maju berperang dengan upaya mati-matian. Begitu pun kala mengejar apa yang kita inginkan. Dengan tak punya alternatif lain kita akan mati-matian mengejar peluang yang ada.
Quote Kalau Takut Gagal
If you're doing your best, you won't have any time to worry about failure.
~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Failure is an event, never a person.
~William D. Brown, Welcome Stress!
The only time you don't fail is the last time you try anything - and it works.
~William Strong
I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
~Thomas Edison
I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.
~Bill Cosby
There is no failure except in no longer trying.
~Elbert Hubbard
Supposing you have tried and failed again and again. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down.
~Mary Pickford
Try again. Fail again. Fail better.
~Samuel Beckett
Failure doesn't mean you are a failure... it just means you haven't succeeded yet.
~Robert Schuller
One fails forward toward success.
~Charles F. Kettering
One must be a god to be able to tell successes from failures without making a mistake.
~Anton Pavlovich Chekhov
A man may fall many times, but he won't be a failure until he says that someone pushed him.
~Elmer G. Letterman
Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.
~F. Scott Fitzgerald
Just once it might be instructive to pretend you're accepting an award for failure, just to see who you would thank.
~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
In a world flagrant with the failures of civilization, what is there particularly immortal about our own?
~G.K. Chesterton
They say President Wilson has blundered. Perhaps he has, but I notice he usually blunders forward.
~Thomas Edison
There are defeats more triumphant than victories.
~Michel de Montaigne
Failure sometimes enlarges the spirit. You have to fall back upon humanity and God.
~Charles Horton Cooley
Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, "I have failed three times," and what happens when he says, "I am a failure."
~S.I. Hayakawa
A failure is a man who has blundered, but is not able to cash in the experience.
~Elbert Hubbard
No man is a failure who is enjoying life.
~William Feather
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
~Henry Ford
Because a fellow has failed once or twice or a dozen times, you don't want to set him down as a failure till he's dead or loses his courage.
~George Horace Lorimer
You can't have any successes unless you can accept failure.
~George Cukor
There is no failure. Only feedback.
~Robert Allen
Failure changes for the better, success for the worse.
~Lucius Annaeus Seneca
There is much to be said for failure. It is more interesting than success.
~Max Beerbohm, Mainly on the Air, 1946
You always pass failure on your way to success.
~Mickey Rooney
Nothing fails like success because we don't learn from it. We learn only from failure.
~Kenneth Boudling
Our business in life is not to succeed, but to continue to fail in good spirits.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
It is a mistake to suppose that people succeed through success; they often succeed through failures.
~Author Unknown
The men who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try to do nothing and succeed.
~Lloyd Jones
~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Failure is an event, never a person.
~William D. Brown, Welcome Stress!
The only time you don't fail is the last time you try anything - and it works.
~William Strong
I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
~Thomas Edison
I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.
~Bill Cosby
There is no failure except in no longer trying.
~Elbert Hubbard
Supposing you have tried and failed again and again. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down.
~Mary Pickford
Try again. Fail again. Fail better.
~Samuel Beckett
Failure doesn't mean you are a failure... it just means you haven't succeeded yet.
~Robert Schuller
One fails forward toward success.
~Charles F. Kettering
One must be a god to be able to tell successes from failures without making a mistake.
~Anton Pavlovich Chekhov
A man may fall many times, but he won't be a failure until he says that someone pushed him.
~Elmer G. Letterman
Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.
~F. Scott Fitzgerald
Just once it might be instructive to pretend you're accepting an award for failure, just to see who you would thank.
~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
In a world flagrant with the failures of civilization, what is there particularly immortal about our own?
~G.K. Chesterton
They say President Wilson has blundered. Perhaps he has, but I notice he usually blunders forward.
~Thomas Edison
There are defeats more triumphant than victories.
~Michel de Montaigne
Failure sometimes enlarges the spirit. You have to fall back upon humanity and God.
~Charles Horton Cooley
Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, "I have failed three times," and what happens when he says, "I am a failure."
~S.I. Hayakawa
A failure is a man who has blundered, but is not able to cash in the experience.
~Elbert Hubbard
No man is a failure who is enjoying life.
~William Feather
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
~Henry Ford
Because a fellow has failed once or twice or a dozen times, you don't want to set him down as a failure till he's dead or loses his courage.
~George Horace Lorimer
You can't have any successes unless you can accept failure.
~George Cukor
There is no failure. Only feedback.
~Robert Allen
Failure changes for the better, success for the worse.
~Lucius Annaeus Seneca
There is much to be said for failure. It is more interesting than success.
~Max Beerbohm, Mainly on the Air, 1946
You always pass failure on your way to success.
~Mickey Rooney
Nothing fails like success because we don't learn from it. We learn only from failure.
~Kenneth Boudling
Our business in life is not to succeed, but to continue to fail in good spirits.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
It is a mistake to suppose that people succeed through success; they often succeed through failures.
~Author Unknown
The men who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try to do nothing and succeed.
~Lloyd Jones
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